Trying To Control 'Reality'

We always try to control the 'reality' - whatever is happening with and around us.  
We are convinced that ' what is' or 'what has happened' has something to do with me.
Most of the times, we look at the 'happenings' in two different ways.

1.  It is the way it is because I did something to make it happen this way. 
     Had I 'Not done that', the reality would have been different. 

2. It is the way it is because I did NOT do something to change it, to make it happen differently. 
    Had I done 'something', the reality would have been different. 

   The first scenario has a sense of 'ego'.
   The second has a sense of  'guilt'.
               (Actually- in both the scenarios, if the outcome is good and favorable, it boosts our ego, 
               and if the outcome turns out to be bad or ‘not so good’  then it gives us a sense of guilt.)   

But how do we really know that 'with or without our actions' the things would have been different? 
We will never know, would we ?
We can not go back and see if our 'doing or not doing' would change anything. 

When we start questioning reality, we either become egotistic or experience stress and frustration. 

Does that mean we should not do anything? 
No. It means perform your actions diligently and conscientiously, and accept whatever the outcome is. 
That is what Lord Krishna meant when he said:
               " Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma phaleshou kadachinah
                  Ma Karma Phal Hetur Bhurma tey Sangostva Akarmani " 
                                                                     (Bhagvad Gita 2 : 47)

" You have the right to perform your actions, but the fruits of the actions are not in your control.
  Never consider yourself to be the cause of the result of your actions, 
  nor you should be attached to the thought of Not doing your duty."        (Bhagvad Gita 2:47 )

So, stop arguing with or questioning the 'Reality'. 
It is what it is. 
Just keep performing the action to the best of your ability and....
             हुकम रजाई चलना नानक लिखया नाल 
"Hukam Razaayi chalna, Nanak likheya naal" (Japuji Sahib)

Go with the flow of the "Highest Order".

This is the way to attain the peace and bliss. 

                              'Rajan Sachdeva'