Hesitant to Praise but Quick to Criticize

We are often too quick to criticize and too slow to appreciate.
We often hesitate to praise someone.
When someone says something wise or does something good, we rarely take the time to acknowledge it and often hesitate to praise them by making some excuse.
We don't even want to discuss it or mention it to others.
And when we do feel like sharing something admirable, we hide the person’s name —
as if praising them might somehow diminish us and lower our dignity in front of them.

On the other hand, when someone says or does something we don't like, our response is immediate. We question, criticize, gossip, and amplify it.
As they say: Faults spread faster than virtues.

The New Testament reminds us:
“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye,
and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
(New Testament - Luke 6:41)

The 15th-century Sant Sant Ren ji expressed the same truth with striking clarity:
"But Beej sum Par-Avgun Jin ko kar to man meru dikhaavay
Meru sum apno avagun Tin ko kar tu But-Beej janaavay
Eem Santan 'Ren' Kahay man syon Par-avagun dhaamp tab-hi Sukh Paavay."*

Meaning: 
"O mind, you magnify the faults of others and present to the world as a mountain even if they are as small as a mustard seed,
And your own faults, even if as large as a mountain, you make them seem as small as a mustard seed.
Thus says Sant ‘Ren’: Only by ignoring and concealing the faults of others can the mind attain peace and true joy."

This wisdom is timeless and universal.
We always magnify the shortcomings of others and minimize our own.
*He further said that the opposite is also true.
We magnify our qualities and good deeds while minimizing the virtues and good deeds of others.
However, peace does not come from reforming others or correcting the world—it comes from reforming ourselves.

Instead of constantly blaming and criticizing others, we should turn our attention inward. 

Our real work lies in observing our own thoughts, refining our own actions, and overcoming our own weaknesses.
Because in the end -
We are responsible only for ourselves, not for others.
                        " Rajan Sachdeva "