What makes us jealous?
The root cause of jealousy is possessiveness.
When we see that others have what we want to possess, we become jealous.
When we see people with specific talents that we would like to have - others doing and achieving what we would like to get credit for, we become jealous.
When we see someone being praised and admired, we become jealous - because we want people to praise us.
We do not want anyone else to get more attention and admiration than us.
The fact is that deep down in our hearts, we want to possess what others have, and we don't.
To be free of jealousy, one has to be free from the feeling of possessiveness and ownership.
The sense of ownership creates a feeling of insecurity - a fear of losing what we have. May it be things, objects, positions, or people and our authority and control over them.
The true Gyanis or Enlightened ones are free of jealousy because they are free of possessiveness.
They know that everything in the world is subject to change.
Therefore, they do not hold on or cling to anything - neither objects nor people.
They do not carry a sense of ownership of anything or anyone -
and therefore, they remain free of jealousy.
' Rajan Sachdeva '
' Rajan Sachdeva '
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ReplyDeleteI always thought comparison brings this negative emotion. Since I don't have information or interest to compare my possessions with say President of Turkey, I do not feel jealous of him.
ReplyDeleteTrue - comparison of possessions causes jealousy.
DeleteIf we don't have a desire to possess what they have - like you said to be a president or something - then we don't become jealous of them either.
Thanks for bringing this point.
Fully agree about desire to possess being the root cause of jealousy. But there is another factor to consider as well. How do I regard the other person? If I hold him to be superior to me, then I may accept that he deserves his wealth and power. But if I hold him to be my peer or below my status, then I would be jealous that he possesses wealth or power which I don't have. This is when I begin to compare.
DeleteA true Gyani knows we are all equal, and all possessions belong to God, so he doesn't feel attached to his own or others' possessions, and feels contented to accept God's will.
Excerpt from Aristotle’s "Rhetoric": “We envy those who are near us in time, place, age, or reputation … those whose possession of or success in a thing is a reproach to us: these are our neighbors and equals; for it is clear that it is our own fault we have missed the good thing in question.”
DeleteBut now I realize that it is the tangible and intangible possessions,and fear of losing them is the underlying cause
ReplyDeleteThanks for helping to deepen the knowledge.
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ReplyDeleteTru Professor Sahib.
ReplyDeleteTru Professor Sahib
ReplyDeleteWell written ��
ReplyDeleteWonderful analysis of jealousy and root causes of jealousy how to eliminate it����
ReplyDeleteKnown but difficult to practice it
ReplyDeletevery true. ��
ReplyDeleteEverything in this world is for us to enjoy but we don't own or possess.
ReplyDeleteIsha upanishad.
Excessive desire leads to action and if we don't get it leads to anger and jealousy leading to delusion and finally destruction gita 2- 63
Dr. Bhandaru